The Competition

This is so odd...

Somebody is eliminating me from a game that I wasn't even a part of. I was branded a "competition" and a very threatening one at that.

Me, a competition? Well... While I admit to being competitive in the workplace, I am not known to being a boyfriend-snatcher. What benefit will I get by doing that? Usually, the guy you can snatch is not worth of your love anyway. (He did it to her, he will do it to you. Vicious cycle!)

And besides, there are many fishes in the ocean so why share when you can find one all for yourself? Believe me, I know how it feels when a third party goes into the relationship and ruin it.
A word of caution though: Don't provoke me or I will accept the challenge!

Be thankful for the qualities that you have because they're God's gift to you.

So then, here are my thoughts on dealing with competition and generally, relationships.

1. Verify your suspicions. You don't want to bark at the wrong tree or worse, imply something that does not exist. That may even open the idea of "why not" between "the competition" and your man. Make sure that if you provoke somebody to compete you are ready for it or she can eliminate you to bits easily.

2. Confront your partner. The woman is just half of the problem (and sometimes she is not even aware that you exist anyway!). Your man is the more important other half. If he stops flirting, there will be no competition.

3. In the "Art of War" it is important to know your enemy. Being competitive means keeping your insecurity in check. It can eat up the relationship to nothingness.

4. Trust is the issue. Don't be with somebody you can't trust or someone who can't trust you.

5. Spice it up. Don't let boredom plague the relationship.

6. Face the truth. If your man wants out, maybe he'll do things to make you ask for a breakup. So read the hints.

7. You get what you give. Love begets love. Contempt begets contempt. Remember the Golden Rule.

8. Don't be in the position to hurt. At the end of the day, you want to settle with somebody who is compatible with you, your perfect match. If you think the relationship is going nowhere, give it up. Don't force it or you will just end up hurting each other. Another one will surely come.

9. Set a benchmark and evaluate it after every relationship so you'll know if you're being realistic. You may be aspiring for the sun when what you deserve is a moon.

10. You are what you think. If you think that you're good for nothing, maybe you are right.

11. Live with it. Challenges don't go away. It always presents itself in ways you don't really expect.

12. Express your real feelings. Falling out does not necessarily mean lack of love, sometimes, it's because of unexpressed feelings.