My friend has decided to give it another try with her husband. They've been separated for six years. During those years, relatives on both sides have muddled the issue beyond epic proportion. (Filipinos are clannish so in one way or another each has a "view" of the situation and force him/herself into the middle of it.)
They have two good looking sons (both are my inaaanak). Like most mothers, my friend is willing to sacrifice a lot just for the sake of her children, even her own happiness which I think is a double-edged sword.
We, her girl friends, were there during the most trying times, listening and doing our best to ease up the pain. We did not condemn the guy because we knew that a relationship is not a one-way street and our friend no matter how much we love her was not at all faultless.
Now that they've decided to patch things up and start anew, we're not yet ready to say our piece.
We are not against them trying to "fix" things and finding their happiness the second time around but we decided to keep mum about the issue for now. We are in agreement that getting back for the sake of the children is not really the best reason to live together again. There are many more issues to tackle, for sure, and until then when things have been discussed, forgiven, resolved and both parties decided that there are more right reasons to stay together than apart that we will be happy for them. Extended families, please keep out for now!
We will wait and hope for the best. If things go wrong again, we're right here friend. Our shoulders are always ready for you.
3 comments:
It is best for people to stay out. They should be there for the person but should never get involved. If the two get back together then they will have a hard time retracting all the nasty things they have said to the other person. If they dont get back together then anything they said to the other person is moot because that person wont care about their opinion.
It is a lose lose situation when people get involved in other's affairs!
That's true that is why we chose to just listen and express support. We are all still friends and can hang out together just like the old times.
It's really hard to handle this kind of situation since I am experiencing this now. No matter how we hate each other but what is matter most is Me and my Ex husband knows how to respect each other. There are some situations that we cannot avoid saying bad things to each other but as much as possible we do not let our friends know how we hate each other since they would be affected on that way
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