The Bitter Ex

I know I shouldn't be blogging about breakup and separation at a day like this, but I can't help it. I just talked to Mench (not her real name of course) who was "abandoned" by her husband for another woman. Mench always stressed that she had been battered, abandoned and their children didn't get any support, not a cent from her philandering husband.

So to cut to the chase, I asked her "Have you moved on?" She said "What kind of a question is that?" "It's an important question. If he's happy now, you should be happy too," I said. "It's not about letting go and moving on," she answered back. "Then what is it all about?" I quizzed.

I just don't get it Mench. You know he's not coming back so why are you holding on? You said that things are going for you, so why are you so bitter? It's not even about the money because you have more than your ex's. Is it about your bloated ego? Pride? Envy? Why do you want to be with somebody who doesn't love you anymore? Where did your self-respect go?

A Time To Celebrate

We are celebrating today. It's my parents' 39th wedding anniversary! They're still in love with each other and we their children are very happy with the family they both nurtured and built through the years.

The people who know us, who've seen us grow and struggle through defeats and triumphs are the people who can truly attest about the love in our family. Thank you to my parents for providing a real home. We've been through a lot, and I mean a lot, hardships included, but we managed to stay together, help one another and now, we're still happy.

Our family has grown. Two of my siblings are now married and on their own. My parents are most of the time staying in their farm, my youngest brother is working abroad and I stay in the city home alone, with my dog.

Despite the distance that separate all of us, we know, we are so confident of the love that we have for each other. I know, family is very important. For as long as I live, I will cherish mine.

I'd like to share my parents' theme song. It took sometime for me to find this. My friend, Mylene, now a nun had taken the effort to record this for me a few years back. Thanks to limewire too.


I ONLY LIVE TO LOVE YOU
By Cilla Black


I only live to love you
Love you until forever
Day after day, year after year
For always we will journey together.

I only live to love you
Walk with my dreams beside you
Smile after smile, tear after tear
In shadow or in sunshine my love will guide you.

When there are clouds above
If I have you to love why do I care if you are there?
For when you came my way there was no yesterday
Only tomorrow with you

Here is my hand to lead you
Here are my arms that need you
I only live, live for your love
For my love will be your love now and forever.

Nice Email

My yahoo inbox is overflowing with unread forwarded messages. This morning though, I really liked what I read so am sharing it here.

Don't date because you are desperate.
Don't marry because you are miserable.
Don't have kids because you think your genes are superior.
Don't philander because you think you are irresistible.

Don't associate with people you can't trust.
Don't cheat. Don't lie. Don't pretend.
Don't dictate because you are smarter.
Don't demand because you are stronger.

Don't sleep around because you think you are old enough and know
better.

Don't hurt your kids because loving them is harder.
Don't sell yourself, your family, or your ideals.
Don't stagnate.

Don't regress.
Don't live in the past. Time can't bring anything or anyone back.
Don't put your life on hold for possibly Mr/Ms Right.
Don't throw your life away on absolutely Mr Wrong because your biological clock is ticking.

Learn a new skill.
Find a new friend.
Start a new career.
Sometimes, there is no race to be won. Only a price to be paid for some of life's more hasty decisions.

To terminate your loneliness, reach out to the homeless.
To feed your nurturing instincts, care for the needy.
To fulfill your parenting fantasies, get a puppy.
Don't bring another life into this world for all the wrong reasons.

To make yourself happy, pursue your passions and be the best of what
you can be.
Simplify your life. Take away the clutter.
Get rid of destructive elements: abusive friends, nasty habits, and dangerous liaisons.
Don't abandon your responsibilities but don't overdose on duty.

Don't live life recklessly without thought and feeling for your family.
Be true to yourself.
Don't commit when you are not ready.
Don't keep others waiting needlessly.

Go on that trip. Don't postpone it.
Say those words. Don't let the moment pass.
Do what you have to, even at society's scorn.

Write poetry.
Love Deeply.
Walk barefoot.
Dance with wild abandon.
Cry at the movies.

Take care of yourself. Don't wait for someone to take care of you.
You light up your life.

It is true that life does not get easier with age. It only gets more
challenging.
Don't give up. Don't be afraid. Don't lose your capacity to love.
Pursue your passions.

Live your dreams.
Don't lose faith in God.
Don't grow old. Just grow YOU.

Absolute One-ness

Everytime you think of me
there will be longing
that will only get deeper and deeper
until you drown in disillusion and despair

There is no solution to it, no relief
We just have to linger
lifetime after lifetime
until we figure out our connection

Fruition will come
Until the day comes
You will wish deep enough
that the loneliness goes away

But the universe didn't plan it that way
It's karma
It's love
Pure energy that cannot be controlled nor corrupted

Until you surrender to it
Until you realize that this is the reason you exist
You will continue to get lost
and make mistakes

Stumble you surely will
Wishing that we become one
absolute finality
At last